I have some questions about inheritance.
I recently turned 19 (the legal age of an adult) in BC. I know that my grandparents spent time with me and loved me, my mother has also said that I have some money.
How do I find out if I have any inheritance? IS there a way I can find out about it without alerting my family? If it’s mine and if I can use it for college or a car or whatever I want? How can I find out if my mother is lying about my inheritance? Is there a place where I can find and read old wills (from the 1990’s)? I tried calling legal aid but they said they don’t handle those things.
My mother is not a trustworthy person when it comes to money and my grandparents died before I turned 10.
My mom has never said how much money I have or if it’s mine or if it’s a gift she’s giving to me. She acts as if any money is a gift. Then again she acted as if making me breakfast was a huge deal when I was 5 years old and she was a stay a home mom. I understand that a college fund is a gift and an investment in the future but if I had money of my own that belongs to me then my life would be easier instead of struggling for food each month. There is no way she would tell me anything about money and is known to be a liar. She knows the only reason I talk to her is for money and about a few things like the with her, never anything personal.
I know that my grandparents would have left me money, but I have no idea how much and ,when they were very sick and close to death my mother was right there, taking care of them but also controlling them so it would have been easy enough for her to get whatever she wants.
A big reason why I don’t trust her is because she dropped me off at my aunt’s house, a woman who I didn’t even know and moved across the country. She told me that I was spending a vacation there. After she had moved she dropped a bunch of my clothes in garbage bags, and she kept a lot of my stuff, things that I liked, like a marble globe and some shelves, and some art thing that were 100% mine but took them anyways. Then she went on a holiday, traveling all around South America with her new (who I had never met before) boyfriend. She left me when I was 15, did not pay any child support (after suing my dad for it), and refused to sign any sort of paper giving my father guardian ship.
She sued my father in the divorce and I have no idea what happened there but there is a rift in the family so I CAN NOT ASK ANYONE IN MY FAMILY FOR HELP WITHOUT OPENING A CAN OF WORMS AND A LOT OF ANGER. That would be a last ditch effort.
When I had trouble with my aunt, my mom didn’t care if I had a place to live or not even though she was my guardian and she thought it would be a great idea for me to go on youth social assistance, because I had trouble getting healthy food to eat and paying rent on a minimum wage job. It was supposed to be her job to make sure I had a place to live.
I’ll say it again: SHE refused to sign any sort of paper giving my father guardian ship. SHE MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY WITHOUT TELLING ME. Oh, and after moving she demanded that I call her once a week. I didn’t.
I know that what I’m doing is sneaky, I also know that what I’m doing is trying to find out what I am rightly owed so that I feel secure.
I want to know the facts from a concrete place, from lawyers or form a will. I don’t want to fight, just what’s supposed to be mine.
I also know better than anyone out there to not trust my family when it comes to these sort of things. I love them. I can watch hockey with them, joke with them and have super dinners with them. I can’t talk with them about money. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
I’m sorry to say I think you are off track. Money that you have not earned no matter how much will just slip through your fingers. Think of all the lottery winners out there who are broke again in 2 years. You really don’t need that money to ‘feel secure’. You need to feel secure in yourself and learn how to earn and save your own money.
If you really do want to know more about your grandparents’ will I understand that it is public property and should be available to you. You need to contact the ‘Probate Court’ in the county where your grandparents lived/died. They will either have the will on file or be able to point you in the right direction. A person has been nominated to fulfill their requests called their ‘executor’. If the probate court cannot show you the will perhaps they will know who was appointed executor.
Its strange to me that you show such a disliking for your mother’s greed and manipulation when it comes to money. But meanwhile you are trying to get your hands on your deceased family’s money and sneaking around them. You may or may not have something owed to you, but is it really the end of the world? I’ve never been given a hand out and I get along OK.
If I were you I would just let the whole thing go and get on with living your life. And maybe go track your Dad down.